Little by Little

http://www.oldpathsfamilyfarm.net/blog/2007/12/11/little-by-little/

Feeling overwhelmed? Can't keep up? Me too! Here's a little tidbit that may help to just give you the boost you need! Remember to commit your work unto the Lord! Ask Him each step of the way, "What's next?" Proverbs 16:3--Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will be established. Click on the above link and get some ideas and encouragement!

Happy New Year!

A Little Dose of Reality

The following post is from our friends' family blog. http://www.ourfamily-bts.blogspot.com/ I felt this post was rather appropriate as I was thinking my next post should be about Lord's Day preparations (how to make it easier for everyone). I am sure most of you can relate to this experience in some way....



Told by the fly on the wall:
There is a very common misconception among some people we know about our Sunday morning routine. Our church family sees us arrive in our Sunday bests. The girls in their dresses, sweaters/coats, their hair brushed and fixed in a cute manner, their shoes actually clean. The men of our gang in their khaki dress pants, blue suit coats, brown or black shoes, nicely brushed hair, dress shirts and to top it all off, ties. We file in, greet our friends then head to our rows, yes more than one since they don’t make rows with 12 seats in them anymore. But, I wonder if they ever think about what it takes to get this country family to such a state of tidiness? Probably not. Have you? Really? Okay, then I’ll try to give you a little glimpse into our Sunday mornings.For me the morning usually starts with Lydia jumping from her bed to mine. After a few minutes of snuggling she gets down and decides to "vake" the rest of the family up. “Baba veeak!” she yells until most of us are awake and are stumbling into the family room. We let the boys sleep a little longer. There is a little time for snuggling with daddy on the couch where we really wake up. Then the day really begins. This is a typical conversation in the morning:“Can I have cereal instead of oatmeal?”“No, remember you ate the cereal yesterday.”“I can’t find the sugar!”“Did you empty the dishwasher?”“Oh, Dad, did you know my finger is finally healing!”“What happened to your finger?”:screams::giggles::shrikes:“Dad can you catch Lydia! Quick!”:roar:“Are you a lion?”“No.”“A bear?”:roar:“Oh a bear!”“I can’t find a spoon!”“Did you empty the silverware yet?”“Did the trashes get emptied?”“No? Then get it done.”“Did you remember to iron Ben’s pants?”“Oh! I couldn’t find them!”“Ben get me your pants!’“Oh, not those! Those are the ones with holes!”“Where’s my glass?”“Look on the dish rack or cupboard.”“I need in the bathroom!”“Just a minute.”“Please hurry, I need the curling iron.”“Sarah can you get the rugs by the front door vacuumed?”“Oh, do the family room while you have it out.”:roar of the vacuum:“Dink?”“My dress fell and is wrinkled again!”“DINK!”“Which cup is Lydia’s?”“Still need in the bathroom!”“Someone needs to clear the table and wash it.”“Gracie, can you get those dishes done?”:roar of the vacuum:“What?”“The dishes need done, quickly!”“Oh, is your bed made?”“Get you shoes and socks set out.”“The boys are still asleep.”“Oh! They need up! Tell them to hurry!”“Are your teeth brushed?”“I can’t find my other shoe!”“After everyone is finished eating set the table for lunch.”“For grandpa and grandma too?”“Yes.”“Where’s Lydia!”“Can’t find my shoe still!”“Need the bathroom to finish my hair!!!!”“I’m in line for it next!”“Someone find Lydia!”“BOYS, GET UP!”“Can someone help me get the plates down?”“Hewp?”“Sure Lydia you can carry the napkins! Follow me.”“Oh, dad did you know I finished the Christmas present I made!”“Daddy, daddy! I know what I want for my birthday dinner!”“Your birthday isn’t for another 9 months!”“I know but I am trying to think about it now.”“I see….”“You need to brush your teeth.”“YOU ALL NEED TO GET DRESSED!”:buzz of activity:“Where did you put my shirt?”“Where I always put your shirt.”“Oh! There!”“Where’s Lydia?”“Make sure you get your belt.”“My dress is still wrinkled!”“Iron it then.”“Oh...”“Has anyone seen my shoe?”“I need in the bathroom!”“You still haven’t found it?”“Is the kitchen clean?”“Almost!”“Brush your teeth!”“Get the camera!”“Oh! She’s so cute!”:laughs:“Everyone one needs to get dressed!”“Please get those books off the floor!”“I found my shoe!”“You’re dressed but where is your belt?”“You need socks that match.”“Should I wear these shoes or these?”“You need a pink hair ribbon for that dress, not the one you have on.”“Mom can you do my hair?”“Are you finished getting dressed?”“Ummmm….no.”“I want you dressed before I do your hair.”“Sarah!”“Where’s Sarah?”“Getting dressed.”“Since you’re dressed, can you read to Lydia?”“Wait! Come back so I can do your hair.”“Get the bibles in the car.”“Which cars are we taking?”“The big van?”“Dad, are we taking the big van?”“Make sure the car seat is in it.”“Where’s Lydia?”“David please read to her!”“I haven’t eaten anything yet.”“Grab a banana.”“Are we taking two cars or just the big van?”“Sarah you don’t have your shoes on!”“Oh!”“Make sure to get your sweater too.”“The chicken needs in the oven!”“Is Lydia’s hair done?”“She needs her coat on!”“Where’s her coat?”“In her drawer.”“Where is she?”“Are you ready to go?”“What cars are we taking?”“Yep!”“You don’t have your shoes on!”“There are still dishes on the counter!”“Who left their hangers in the family room?”“GET IN THE VAN!”“Where’s my purse?”“Did you get the diaper bag?”“I can’t find my shoes!”“WHAT???”“I need in the bathroom!”“Oh no! Your hair isn’t done!”“Are you teeth brushed?”“You forgot my bible!”“Ooops!”“Mom leave the dishes and come on!”“Almost done.”“Can I sit by you?”“I’m not sure where I’m sitting yet.”“No, it’s my turn to sit by you.”“Guys, it’s just a 5 minute drive!”“Get in the van!”“Can you scoot over more?”“You said I could sit next to you!”“I didn’t say anyone could sit by me.”“But I want to.”“Just a minute.”“Everyone buckled?”“Where’s Sarah?”“Must still be in the house.”“Someone needs to find her.”“SARAH!”“What?”“Sarah what are you doing?”“Looking for my purse.”“We’re all waiting in the car for you!”“Oh! Just a minute.”“You guys need to make room for Sarah back there.”“You’re squishing me!”“I’m not touching you!”A few minutes later we file out of the van into the church parking lot looking ship shape and tidy as if we woke up that way. :shrug: If they only knew….

Mrs. Honeybee: The thing I would mention is that as soon as you get the baby buckled they spit up or dirty their diaper. So you have to start over clear down to the Onesie! This can happen up to 3 times in a row! Also, you can plan a nursing schedule, but life happens. If you travel a long distance to church, you may have to pull over for nursing! (because your schedule got thrown off from the 3 changings, and it made you late, thus, your nursing schedule was thrown off as well! Then we need to leave room for little boys!! We get them all ready, clean ironed clothes, clean face, hair slicked back....if you turn your back for a moment, their shirt is hanging out, they've climbed under the tablecloth and messed their hair, they've decided to make themselves a second breakfast and it's all down the front of them. ---Or, like my boys, as soon as they head for the car, they slip on the slimy deck and totally ruin their whole outfit....O.K. , so we go in, get them all slicked up again (patiently of course), and they come out to the car, and crawl all over their sisters to get to their spot....well, those sisters all start screaming, or crying and they have to start over again, or they just learn how to deal with it, let the mud dry, dust off, and praise the Lord anyway! :-)
Next Post: "Lord's Day Preparations"
With Love, and Total Understanding, Mrs. Honeybee

Out of the Mouths of Babes

Living Long Enough to See History

By: Pamela Spurling www.achristianhome.com

I heard that sort of thing from my mother growing up. I read about history repeating itself in school, in letters and in magazines in dentist’s offices over the years. I read about it in Ecclesiastes. The more I read the more I see it. The longer I live I see it: History repeating itself.
So I was driving along and a song popped in my head and I must’ve been humming… one of the children said, O, that’s a new ____ song. I thought… no, no… that’s an old song. What? You *know* that song? Yes… it was… Harry Nillson… 1971… I was in the… …drifting off. And then it was affirmed to me once again: there is nothing new under the sun (in addition to: vanity of vanities; all is vanity) and the more things change, the more they stay the same. And children are still surprised at life that happened before they were born. Back before… wow, CD players.
I was talking with a young mom and she was lamenting the length of days and the monotony of repetition. I told her, as is my oft repeated mantra these days: this will pass and you will cry for these days. She sort of glazed over when I continued on telling her that these days will be the past all too quickly and she’ll miss them with a physical ache she cannot comprehend at this point in time - but there will come a time that she will, indeed, cry for these days. A curious blend of regret, longing, missing, hope and love. She cannot see that now. All she can see is the daily-ness of today. And that’s a problem with young mothers… motherhood is so daily. Too daily for some and they think real life is happening somewhere else (but that’s a lie). All she can see is the endless mountains of laundry, valleys of despair and dishes mounting in the sink.
I told her she would, one day, be telling another mother these same things. She will be able to tell that future mother more convincingly if she embraces these days and loves motherhood with unreserved abandon. But if she hates these days and continues rejecting God’s precious gift of motherhood… then… she won’t have much to tell that future mother and will certainly leave no joy in her children’s memories of her. History will repeat itself… the daughters will become mothers and who will encourage them? Who will cheer them on? Will they reject or embrace motherhood? Will they be sweet mothers?
I hope she will live long enough to see history. I pray it’s sweet.
So, I was mindful today as I was reading through some articles and noticing a common thread… what mothers went through yesterday, mothers face anew today— but it’s not new, not really. It’s the next chapter. It’s the same thing only different. Different bcz of history. By this I mean that what we face today we have faced already - just differently. As mothers we’ve waited and waited and waited for, say, the birth of the next baby. Then we waited and waited and waited for this or that milestone. Then we waited and waited and waited for the next and so on — History repeating itself. We watch how God worked in a particular situation and then marvel when yet another situation is miraculously covered — History repeating itself. On our behalf. We wait and wait and wait to see history. And you know… for believers what we really want to see is His - story. We all long to see His way and will played out in the lives of our children… and what a blessing it would be to see history played out in our children’s children.
For all of history is HIStory.

COMMUNICATION

How do you communicate with your children? How do they see you? I have had my child ask me on several occasions, "Mommy, why do you look so mad?"

"Mommy, why do you have a mean look on your face?"

"Mommy, do you love me?"

Oh, what a knife to my heart, sunk in deeply and twisted and wrenched. This is not what I want to portray to my family at all, in fact it is exactly opposite!!

The Apostle Paul could empathize when he wrote in Romans 7:15-

"For that which I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate."

It has taken much prayer and practice. I still fail! I ask God to work His spirit of love in me. Sometimes it's minute by minute. But when we truly want Him to work, and then surrender our hearts, He will do it!

Imagine how you look to your child. Is it pleasant? Look in the mirror. Practice a pleasant face. Practice a loving voice. If you weren't raised this way, Jesus can still help your willing heart!

Another very important aspect of communication with our children is touch. Try to touch them as often as possible throughout the day. As each of us respond through different senses, so do our children. Our hands can communicate what maybe our lips or faces sometimes do not. When you are sitting together put your arm around him and rub his shoulder. When you are walking, talking, or sitting together, hold his hand. I can get a seemingly impossible child to respond to me through touch. It may be hard for you, or not natural, but do it anyway.

"Love does not seek its own way." 1Cor. 13:5 Step out of your comfort zone today. God will bless you for the action of LOVE!

I guarantee your child will respond. Some children take longer than others. Do not give up!

Jesus will reward you for your efforts to step out of yourself!

PUT ON LOVE!!!!

Thankfulness Timer

..............speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father;......... Ephesians 5:19-20

Giving thanks in all things does not always come natural. If we practice, it will be easier to see all the blessings in our lives. One way our family has implemented this in our home is to set a timer. You can set it for every hour or every 30 minutes. Make this fun for your child by anticipating the timer going off and being enthusiastic! There have been days when I really didn't feel very thankful, but did it anyway. I had to be an obedient example. Our attitude changes when we are counting our blessings and naming them one by one.

When the timer beeps have everyone gather around and take turns thanking God for something. Praise Him for something He's done or share an attribute of God. Your praise or discussion can be as long or short as time allows. We have had times where we've all been in different parts of the home and each person shouts their thing for which they are thankful from where they are and then we continue what we were doing. This can become such a lovely habit, you may surprise yourself.

Another great blessing that has come out of this is when drop-in company stopped in for a visit. When our timer went off, we all thanked God for something. This involves the visitor. What an exciting witnessing tool! Try it, you'll not be disappointed!

Memory to Music

We all know that it is easier to remember things with a tune! This has been so helpful with our childrens' scripture memory. We take a Bible verse and put it to a nursery ryme or other familiar tune. For example, we took 1 John 2:14: Do not love the world, nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him, and put it to the tune of "Hickory Dickory, Dock". The older children still have not forgotten it! You can do this with any verse and any tune. (It probably helps me more than anyone!)

Children Sitting Still in Church

Dear ladies,

I was hoping you all could offer some wisdom on a particular aspect of child training. How do you get small children to sit still at church?!?!?! We have tried various things with our two, but we have not found anything that provides the type of result we are looking for. Is it too much to expect of a two-year-old to be able to sit somewhat still and quiet for 45 mins? I am at my wits end! I so long to be able to sit with the church and just soak up the Word. Instead, I find myself wrestling wiggly children and getting only tidbits of the message. Any practical tips would be a tremendous blessing! Thank you in advance! I am so blessed to have so many wonderful women to draw from.

Jane

Dear Jane,

You will get alot of diffrent advise and can try these things and see what works best for you. I think the first thing is that not all children are the same. So what works for Maggie may not work for Gary. I must admit, Mike is pretty easy. I do remember leaving to go to the nursery ocassionally with him, but we usually ended up back at Church. If the child knows the nursery is available, they will want to resort back to that as they get older. So if you have been taking them to the nursery, that would be in my advise the last place to go if at all possible. If Maggie gets to acting up, leave right away with her, ( so she won't interupt others, but also so she knows what you expect from her.) but take her someplace other than the nursery. Talk with her or it need be give her a swat, then talk and tell her what you expect. It may be hard at first, but you will probably be leaving a lot the first few times. Now I know some people want them to sit like zoombies for 1 - 3 hours, but I don't require that. I know it can be hard for adults to do, so how can we ask children too? Mike sits with us for Sunday school and Church. I usually take a drink and then for church sometimes a (not messy) snack. Also nutritional, or expect them to bounce all over. He is usually content to sit on laps, sometimes we let him walk between us if we have been in alot of church services latey. Sometimes I get lots of kisses from him. I try not to let him get to mushy. I have had a lady say she thinks it is so cute how he loves on me. But if it lingers to long I distract him. Just lately we will take a book or colorings, or 1-2 small hand held quiet toys. He likes to be holding something in his hand.
I have also noticed that he does best if he is kept away from Sandy as well, so does she. He shares with her, but somehow Sandy likes to push his buttons, or something. Maybe she just gets in more trouble because she talks to him or wants his toys. I have noticed that she has to stay busy. That is how children differ. Sometimes it is age, sometimes personality. So you may find it easier if Joe cares for the one, while you care for then other. At least during the beginning training process. And try to keep Gary in church as much now, as you can. It is better to take several small trips out, that to just give up and end up in the nursery. Do try to sit near the back, and deal with it quickly. That way they get quick discipline and you get back into church sooner.
Well, I hope this gives you some ideas. It's a training process but can be a great bonding time too. Just think, when they get Brady and Brianna's age, you will be wondering how to keep them awake during Church service. During the past few weeks with girls softball, horseback riding , missions conference, late nights and early mornings these girls have had a few times it was hard to stay awake!
Well have a great Monday!
Joy

Dear Jane,
Hello friend. In regards to your e-mail, I hesitate to answer just because we are still struggling with GARRET in this area! (and he is 5!) J

I think 30 minutes-45 minutes is a good goal to head toward. For us, 30 minutes into the sermon we would allow 2 books on our lap and the toddler could very quietly flip through them (board books do not make noise) When the pastor would start his sermon, I would tell them “sit quietly” that was their signal that it was time to be quiet and sit still on our laps but we knew that would only last so long (30 minutes) , I did not give the book to the child once they started squirming and getting bored. Then I am training them that when they get bored and start moving around that they get rewarded. I would say quietly “you need to sit still” then I would make sure to keep my eye on the clock and pull out the books after 30 minutes and whisper “you can look at these quietly”.. For one child, I had to do that 20 minutes into the sermon because they were just more wiggly in general. That usually worked pretty well. But really, the best training is done at home. Do you ‘practice’ church? That really helped our child training when we tried to set things up here so that we could discipline in the privacy of our home. When we were faithful to that, it made a huge difference out in public. So when Daddy would read the Bible, I would tell the toddler “sit still and be quiet” I would warn for a few days but after I knew they knew what they were supposed to be doing, Daddy or I would take them out and spank them. I might even say “now, what are you going to do?” child:“sit quietly” Daddy or Mommy: “right.” Then I knew they ‘got it’ and I had no problem disciplining for disobedience. For us, we would work on sitting still in Mommy or Daddy’s lap for say, 10 minutes, then moved to 15 minutes until we got up to the 30 minutes which I think is very reasonable for a 2 year old. It just may take you a month to get there. But that is fine!

Bless you! Love, Kim McIver

Jane,
I agree with the responses so far!
We practice during Bible time at home! Let them know what you expect. Follow through. I usually had to leave and spank an average of 2 times per sermon.
We bring special "Sunday" items that are only for Sunday. Color books with a Bible theme, and for more energetic children, (boys in my house) we have brought a small amount of modeling clay. (only to be used when we are able to control what they do with it.) This is a way that they can be physical and still quiet. This only works with certain personalities in my family and we had to quit. How about a quiet puzzle with a Bible theme?

Throughout the week talk about Sunday with anxious expectation. Tell them we are practicing for the LORD"S SPECIAL DAY! Tell them how you look forward to their progress.

We had a success this week with Annalise! We talked about it this week. I reminded her on the way to church. On the way home we talked about what a lady she was and how proud we are and we knew she could do it. She reminded me again about it today. Now we're working on consistently closing our eyes during prayer as to honor God, also singing the hymns. When they don't know the words I encourage them to hum along.... Every 5 minutes or so, I try to smile at them or tell them how great they're doing and to keep up the good work.

I am just now experiencing a sermon w/o having to leave all the time......I am thinking, "If I have another baby now, I will be starting all over again. (in many areas).
We do have the benefit now of older children. That helps! You have this to look forward to!

I always believed a husband and wife should sit together during church....and I LOVE to sit close to my hubby. BUT......we have had to strategically place everyone so the 3 littles are separated and we can each have charge of one small one. So, for now I do not get to sit next to Brian....we joke about it and say, "someday". We will work toward the small ones sitting together later. First we will conquer the bigger issues, and hopefully the other issues will fall into place!

Each child is different. Claim James 1:5 ---- I really will preach this over and over. We need God's wisdom for each moment, with each child, and with each situation. There is never a "system" that works all the time for all situations. I have pleaded for God to help me and have mercy when I feel I've reached a dead end, or can't go on another step, and then HE usually gives me a very simple solution! (even when I'm stuck on an Algebra problem with a teen)! Or He gives grace to continue on..

It will take time. I am still working with my youngest two children. Most everyone in church understands!! So, you will be supported!
You will miss lots of sermons and we (mamas) are probably the ones who need them most! Just accept that part and move on.....not to be harsh, but real! Ask God for other times and ways to get that much needed sermon, or precious words from HIM! HE IS FAITHFUL! He will help.

In Christ's Love,
Mama Honeybee
xoxoxo

Hi Jane,
Yesterday I got the e-mail Melissa sent you. Our computer has filters on it which don't allow us to receive e-mails from people who are not on our allow list. I have not had the chance to put people from the church on the list which means I missed your original e-mail. I'm SO glad Melissa "replied to all" so I got it that way. You are now on my allow list so I'll get future e-mails. The bad thing about the filter is that I don't even get "junk mail" or know anyone is trying to send things to me. But with kids in the house who use the computer we just felt we needed these extra filters. All that to say.... I got the e-mail but only know what Melissa told you. So, if I repeat things please bear with me.

You asked if it is too much to expect a two-year-old to be able to sit still for 45 minutes. My answer to that is a quote from a lady giving me advice when Joe was an infant. She said, "there is no child like your child and no mother like you, and there is not child/mother relationship like yours. So you do what you feel best and don't worry what other people think." That helped me more than I can say as I walked through motherhood with young children. So, I don't know if there is a "textbook" answer to your question. I think you have to judge your child to determine when they are ready. I DO believe that children need to learn to sit still. But I also think the "when" may differ from child to child. To be honest, I don't really remember at what age our kids were expected to sit still in church. We didn't put them in the nursery and I did spend a lot of time in the halls of church!!

I can really relate to your wanting to sit in church and soak up the Word. I believe mothers of young children need that, perhaps, more than most!! I also must admit I didn't handle that part of my motherhood well. I'm ashamed to admit that. I don't think I would say I resented my kids but at times I think I resented that aspect of motherhood. I've repented of that but can't go back and do it again. But I do agree with Melissa - accept the fact that you will miss much of the sermon and move on. My other favorite saying - "This is only a season and it will pass." Again, I can really relate because there are only 6 years between Joe and John. So, I spent a lot of years missing sermons. When John was born it made four children six and under sitting in the pew.

One thing that could really help you is that they put the sermons on the internet. I would suggest you listen to them some evening or during nap time. Then you'll feel like you are hearing what everyone else at church heard and will be able to talk about the sermon when others are talking about it. If your daughter is moving out of nap time I'd like to suggest maintaining a "quiet time" in your home. We STILL have that time in the day. No one usually sleeps, and they are not required to, but they are required to stay on their beds and be quiet. It gives us all a break from the hustle and bustle of the day, and from each other. We will likely continue this routine until my kids move from home. That would give you time to spend in the Word or listening to the sermon.

More practically, I know people who expect their children to sit still and do nothing during the sermon. I found that if my kids could draw or color they actually paid more attention. It is like keeping their hands active allowed their ears to work better. Again, that would depend on your child. But I, like Melissa, had a bag of "church only" color books, books, quiet toys, etc. And, while not totally consistent, we did practice at home during family devotions time.

Prayer, prayer and more prayer will give you wisdom on what is best for your family and your little ones. I know that I chose to keep my kids with me and didn't use nurseries. However, there were times I really should have done something so I could get fed and go into the week more spiritually filled up. I'm at a time in life where I sit through all the sermons - and that time WILL come for you. Yet, I want to put this offer out to you: If you EVER feel like you NEED to be there and yearn for someone to take your child to the nursery or (what is that room called where we have potluck???) PLEASE PLEASE call on us. If you chose not to, we certainly will understand. A mother's heart wants to be with her kids. But, the offer is there and will remain there!! I know Joseph feels the same way. So, please feel free to ask either of us for help. We'd be delighted to help out in that way!! One day your kids will be sitting still and quiet. Until you feel it is time for that training please call on us.

And know that we understand and will pray for you!
Amanda

Grandma Rosie's Legacy

This blog is dedicated to the honor and glory of my Lord, Jesus Christ. God used a very special lady in my and many other young mamas' lives. In a fast-paced, self-centered, me-oriented world, Grandma Rosie pointed us to Jesus and helped us all on our journey of motherhood. In a growing church of approximately 500 people, she was the only one (at any church, that I'd ever heard of) that obeyed the Titus 2 command and taught us ladies all she knew. She shared her life, weaknesses, experiences, trials and joys. She took the "everyday", "common" things and helped us make them special. She shared what worked in her home and what did not. She made us understand we weren't alone and other ladies in fact had gone through similar circumstances daily. She prayed for us and encouraged us. When she didn't have an answer she wasn't afraid to tell you. But.....she promised to pray and if the Lord showed her anything, she got right back to us. I will never forget the lessons learned.

Grandma Rosie was a very real lady. She was honest and obedient. I remember her being nervous about sharing particular subjects the Lord put on her heart, or not feeling adequate to "teach". She told us that and asked us to pray for her. This is true courage: to know what you need to do, to be terrified to do it, and do it anyway.

Grandma Rosie was an only child. She and Papa Dick had 5 children. Her life and family were her training ground, and those life experiences are what she used to teach us!!! She was my true Titus 2 woman, after God's heart, and still is busy discipling ladies today! Thank you Grandma Rosie! xoxoxo

TITUS 2:3-5

That the aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.